How to Respond to Your Child’s Crying

Toddler Crying
Someone is upset 🙁

Crying is known across cultures as a normal response to anything that upsets us emotionally. While listening to an upset child cry is never easy, figuring out how to help the child regain control is usually the answer.

Crying (also known as weeping, bawling, or sobbing) is defined as the act of shedding tears in reaction to something that elicits a strong negative emotional state such as sadness, frustration, and even anger.

Children typically cry in response to something negative happening in their environment and this response is based on real emotions and therefore should always be taken seriously. Dealing with crying can be a difficult part of our job as parents.

We all respond to crying a little differently. Some of us do not like it at all, especially when it is our child doing the crying as seen in this video: I don’t like crying I can’t stand it, especially when it’s more or less a whinny cry.

Others of us know crying is a means of communication and can often be a stress reliever. Still others simply ignore the crying and engage with the upset individual again once the crying stops.

As a parent of a crying infant or child, our job is to help our little one regain control of their emotions. Sometimes they need to be held until they have cried it all out. Other times a redirection (helping the child turn their attention to something else) helps them get back in control of their emotions.

The most important thing in helping our little ones manage their emotions is for us to remain calm and try not to get upset with them. By providing comfort in a time of need and remaining in control of our own emotions we teach our children to be caring and empathetic members of society who will pass this on to their own children one day.

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See the links below for some additional resources on crying:

Your Child May Show Signs of Stress by Crying or Temper Tantrums

Tips for Child Care Providers to Soothe a Crying Baby

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How do you respond to your child when he or she cries?

Let us know your thoughts in the comments section.

Would You Hide Your Child’s Gender?

Would You Hide Your Child’s Gender?

For one couple there was no question. In the story ‘Parents keep child’s gender under wraps’ Kathy Witterick and David Stocker of Toronto, Canada tell all about how they decided not to reveal the gender of their new baby, even to close friends and family.

Inspired by a 1978 book titled X: A Fabulous Child’s Story by Lois Gould where a child ‘X’ is raised as neither a boy or girl, and grows up to be a happy and well-adjusted child Stocker and Witterick decided to do it. “It became so compelling it was almost like, How could we not?” Witterick said.

The parents are determined to keep their child’s gender hidden so (s)he can grow up making his/her own choices without the influence of gender socialization.  According to Witterick “Everyone keeps asking us, ‘When will this end?'” she said. “And we always turn the question back. Yeah, when will this end? When will we live in a world where people can make choices to be whoever they are?”

Now it’s your turn to weigh in. What is your opinion? Would you hide your child’s gender?

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